“When itdetects atrait sodeeplyconserved in human biology, it needs to presume that is a trait selected by evolution and such is necessary for the survival.”

Jerome Wakefield

Sadness has a reason and it’s less negative than we can think. It obliges us to “darkness” moments, wiping out our certainties, and creating an internal space of emptiness, with which we will reborn.

Sadness leads us to a deep functional introspection, to look inside ourselves to take stock of the situation, and than go ahead.

It learns us to appreciate happiness and shed light on our lives. Mood swings, if motivated by events, are symptom of a healthy psychological and sadness represents a source to enrich our emotional life that we must learn to manage.

How to manage it.

 We learn first of all to stop, and came in contact with our sadness.

-We allow to ourselves to be sad.

Learn not to want to drive out  immediately this feeling, even because it would be impossible, rather we try to understand why we’re feeling this sensation, ask ourselves what’s happening in our life, what happened, what we would like to see happen. Every feeling has its meaning, we must learn to understand it.

 -Learn not to feel shame in showing our sadness.

Suppress this feeling leads to discomfort, rage, frustration, and feed our uneasiness.

It’s important to mark that if sadness becomes too much intense, if it turns into a depressive state extended, don’t be shame to ask help, because if a healthy dose of sadness is necessary, all experts agree that in case of depression we need to undergo appropriate treatments.

 traduzione di: julianfire

References

Marshall J. “Is it really bad to be sad?”, NewScientist, Jenuary 14 2009